Monday, December 10, 2007

Dave & Suzanne G. ----“Save Dave’s Leg Fund”

Our good friends Dave & Suzanne were having a hard time making ends meet when they decided to move to Atlanta from the New York area in winter 2005. They had accrued a fair amount of debt in NY, and they thought the lower cost of living in the South would help them cut spending and repair their credit history.


They found an apartment in Alpharetta and within a few months they each found a job and a daycare for their then-2-year-old son. To further cut down on living expenses, they got rid of one of 2 cars and carpooled with each other for a while. Since they worked in opposite directions, though, it added greatly to both their commutes, so Dave began commuting to his job on a Vespa scooter in August.


Life had almost started to settle down when tragedy struck: in December, 2006, Dave was side-swiped by a 16-year old.


He landed in the hospital for several weeks, lucky to be alive. The right side of his body had been crushed, however, including his shoulder, collarbone, ribs, and leg. Over the next 3 months, his upper body gradually recovered. But his leg, which became dangerously infected within the first few weeks of the accident, has yet to heal. The night of the accident, surgery was performed to pin his leg in place. Five days later, they removed the first pin and put in another to more securely set the leg. When rampant infection was discovered in the wound area at the end of January, he had a third surgery to probe for hidden pockets of infection and to emplace a wound V.A.C. (vacuum-assisted closure) device. Another surgery was performed in July, and another in September, all attempts to mitigate the raging infection that has taken hold in his leg.


Despite continued and aggressive intervention throughout the year, his leg has steadily deteriorated to the point that a specialist recently told him that the only way to save his leg now would be to remove 8 cm of bone between his femur and his tibia, and replace it with a titanium rod, forcing his leg to remain straight while internal antibiotics hopefully clear up the infection. The procedure is called an "arthrodesis". If that works, then in April or May, Dave can get a knee replacement and begin the arduous road to rehabilitation. If not, then the leg may be amputated.


To make matters worse, after nearly 12 months of struggle with the recovery from this accident they are reaching the limits on their health insurance coverage. Their lawyers have told them they have no good way to pursue either the 16-year old’s family or the many doctors involved in his case in the courts. The financial situation has become very desperate. While there are some insurance funds that may eventually be available to pay medical expenses, they could be tied up in litigation for years. Humana and Blue Cross/Blue Shield of Georgia have already served liens notifying Dave and Suzanne that they WILL be seeking reimbursement of all the costs of Dave’s care out of any settlement proceeds, and once they have been reimbursed for the nearly $750,000 in medical bills that have thus far accrued, it is highly likely that these funds will be exhausted long before the need for care has passed. It’s been almost a year since the accident, and so far, Dave and Suzanne’s auto policy has paid only $500 toward the cost of their out-of-pocket expenses.


These are our good friends. They are wonderful, generous, loving, funny, smart, cool people. They don’t deserve to be facing such a drastic situation (no one does). They need help with the cost of everything right now – especially the cost for Dave to fly to San Diego where the doctor who can treat him is located, and the cost of his time to stay their during post-operative recovery.


Please make a donation to “Save Dave’s Leg Fund” and help make a difference in the lives of our friends Dave & Suzanne. One hundred percent of your donation will go to the expenses related to this health care emergency. Donations are not tax-deductible.


Here’s a particularly inspiring and eloquent quote from one of Dave’s blogs about the accident:

“I've learned many things since having the accident. I've learned to take my recovery a day at a time - I have great days and awful days. I've learned to plan my recovery and my progress through it not in days or weeks, but in months. Recovering from the kind of trauma I suffered, plus the unfortunate infection that still isn't resolved, takes months. I've learned that my right leg will probably end up 2" shorter than my left one, and that I will never walk the way I used to, although with luck, I will walk unassisted, and if not, then I'll use a cane.

I've learned that society automatically assumes a person is mentally defective if they're in a wheelchair - which has actually been kind of fun to debunk. I've learned that motorcycles are unsafe - not because of the bikes or the riders, most of whom (including myself) are safe, cautious drivers - but because the rest of the vehicles on the road simply do not pay attention to motorcycles, making the riding equation itself unbalanced.

I've learned that my wife, Suzanne, is a kind of a Superwoman, with vast wellsprings of caring, concern, compassion and love as she guides me through one of the stiffest challenges I've yet to face, and advocates fiercely for my well-being with doctors, hospitals, home health agencies, and the world at-large.

I've also learned that bad luck isn't getting caught at the red light, or dropping $50 on the Bears game and losing it, or misplacing one's keys. Bad luck is what happens to you on a Tuesday evening when all you can think about is getting home to be with your lovely wife and beautiful young son to have dinner and spend the evening, and one driver's mistake derails your life in a way you could never have imagined.

Correspondingly, I've also learned that good luck isn't making the light, or winning the football pool, but rather, it is having that wife and son, and health insurance, and the friends who built a ramp for me, or brought casseroles to the house, or watched our son so that Suzanne could wait through my surgery and be there when I awoke, or who simply came to sit by my bedside for half an hour after their own long, challenging day had ended, to help set my mind at ease and give me encouragement, selflessly. That is the kind of good luck that I enjoy, by which I am humbled and for which I am ever thankful.“




- Cari and Chris, Atlanta, GA

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

Dear Dave and Suzanne,
This is a wonderful site. Dave's comments are poignant and full of hope. You are a powerful couple. I keep you in my prayers. Love, Beth

Dave Giaimo said...

Thank you Beth - kind wors such as yours are of great comfort on a bad week when things are really achy and it feel like more uphill trudging than downhill gliding.

Thanks again - I appreciate your feedback.

Cheers,
Dave G.

Anonymous said...

Hello to all,We are in San Diego, thanks your to your donations and support. We had a few things to Dave medically ready for the trip, such as a tooth and getting his mouth on the mend. We flew in Wed, pre-admission fun on Thursday and surgery on Friday. We had to be there at 5:30 in the morning, and my son dealt with waking up and getting there wonderfully. (I think we were worse off than him) I am throughly impressed with this hospital and the doctor. The level of pre-hygeine instructions were impressive (a 5 day dose of bactraban in the nose....brilliant)The doctor texted me that I should not wait and go home. Which was hard, but they updated me with his progress. Dave's surgery was successful, he was and is in incredible pain and woke up screaming from the surgery. Surgery was over at 2, and he did not get a room until 8:30...there were just no rooms on the floor....it happens.He looks good though and his pain is in control...today he walked while I jogged in front of him saying if you catch me you can kiss me...luckily he still gives a damn...lolThings of interest: While waiting for Dave to get a room and waiting in the lobby, I heard a man start escalating about how whitey isn't breeding anymore and this woman was complaining how we are in America, and people need to start speaking English. He then goes across the room to two Latinos and I hear him asking if they were illegals and the ladies were very sweet and calm and said we have green cards and then he started screaming "You are a wetback and that is all you every will be...a f=ing wetback"So, I stood up and said "That is it, you need to leave" He looked a bit of crazy, so I stepped 2 feet into the cafeteria called out to some nurses and told they told them the situation and they told me to call 0 for security. I told him I was calling security and he left.I BTW...their security rocks. They found him brought him back and they gave him a verbal dressing down and he was on watch by everyone, but since he was waiting for his wife from surgery they allowed him to stay there. I was very uncomfortable indeed....and then the two women asked me to come over and sit with them (thank god...since they placed the perp across from me)and they have been there 2 days waiting for their father to get out of ICU...heart surgery..and they are sleeping there last night and tonight. We all ate dinner together...they were an awesome pair and just incredibly lovely. Today I brought them breakfast and vanity items...mouthwash, lotion...etc. and gave them my number if they needed anything...I am sorry we met through unforunate circumstances....but they really were just incredible women and so kind to David and I.During picking out dinner, I told David to put his nintendo ds down so we could focus on what he wanted for dinner... he took me literally and put it down and then I was asked to come back to the lobby to hear the progress on getting Dave a room. We come back to the cafeteria, get dinner finish it...and then realize that David left his DS.No one turned it in. It killed me, because he was so good for so long and took my instructions and someone found it and kept it. He was weeping....poor guy.Luckily a friend, brought us things to look forward to again and when we came home we played with the cars drawing kit and cars...and we jumped together on the bed and had a awesome pillow fight..which I feel cures all ailements/sadness. So rough couple of days, but all in all good. I am exhausted...hugs to everyone. Forgive the typos and spelling...my google spell check is not installed and I am rambling. Thank you all for your support and kindness, it has made a difference for us in this long crisis. We are overwhelmed and deeply humbled to be recipients of such fortune. This has been an incredibly long year and all I can say is that please know we will pay it forward and if there is ever a crisis, we will have your backs as well. I leave you with the quote that is my mantra... "Pray for the dead and fight like hell for living"Suzanne

Anonymous said...

Tomorrow we have to switch to another hotel since this was done by and donated by a wonderful old friend of Dave's ...it has to to with rates and all that. She also paid for it...y messed up by believe it or not. They haven't talked in 20 years or so....she found him on myspace.

Dave is in horrific pain and they messed up by stopping IV pain medication while getting blood transfusions. (his nurse today was annoyed and so was his doctor) Interesting to note, Dave complained of his foot hurting which was our sign infection was back, of course no one listened to us...they called it referred pain....until the oxygen Doctor after hearing the description said that is nerve pain.(shooting pain)

Well he was right, Dave's nerve was tangled in the mess of fractured tibia. Hence the inflammation put pressure on it....nice to finally find out the reason after how many doctors. He now is dealing with a pain they cannot fix without surgery and they may go in on Friday to correct it. out (he was supposed to be out wed-thurs)

The most upsetting news, that I can I can only wish you knew how much I challenged, rallied and argued was that if they did not know the culture use the last culture as a basis...which was negative rod. They threw positive top of the line specific antibiotics, and dammit since May I have argued...and what destroyed my husband's leg....what is growing in there...the same damnable negative rod bacteria.

I have no words to sum up the time stolen from us and his continuing pain. I presented the data. I had charts of how his sed rate, CRP and WBC reacted( to different antibiotics.
I should mention that Sharp has the lowest osteo infection rates after suffering from an injury like Dave's (my research says the norm is 30%...there's is 4%)...after this bs....things will change when we get on our feet.

Thanks for letting me vent.

 
Save Dave's Leg - Donation Website to Help a Friend In Need of Medical Care